You're so brave! If I had to suffer life in a Wheelchair I don't know what I would do.
I am amazed how often I hear that even in 2008. Examine that quote very closely. One thing about it really burns my rubber, sorry a little wheelchair humor there. Who the heck says I am suffering? I was born with Cerebral Palsy, a birth defect that makes it hard for me to walk, talk, write, and hold things and a whole host of other things.If I dwelled on that there would be very little to be happy about in my life. That is what some folks choose to notice when they look at me. But here's something you may not know. I have friends; I have people who care about me and people who I care about. Now does that sound like someone who suffers to you?
I live a paradoxical existence. One that has taught me that those who do not accept their weakness will never find their strength. Everyday I am reminded of what I cannot do by people who don't even realize how lucky they have it. Frustration is my constant companion. However, where there is frustration there is also a determination that sometimes seems so boundless even I am amazed. I have been possessed by anger so potent that all I am able to do is growl while my body literally shakes. The anger always passes though and without that experience I would not be able to gain the special kind of wisdom that comes with acceptance.
When you live like I do you learn that life is not fair very quickly. No force in existence can change that. Once you begin to accept that, a process that never stops by the way, you can accept a great deal.
Disability is a paradox. Depending on your point of view you can see suffering frustration, or determination, patience or hopelessnes. It brings all those things It all depends in how you look at it. Once you understand that you will come to see that there is only one true disability, a lousy attitude.
Before I close, I challenge you with the same choice I confront every day. When you look at the disabled you can choose to see hope or despair. If you choose hope then I congratulate you. You may come to understand a unique view of the world that has a great deal of knowledge to be gained for those who seek it. However, If you look at the disabled and choose to see only tragedy, hopelessness, and despair, then you may keep your pity and ignorant praise to yourself. It is not wanted, not needed, and most certainly not asked for.